Son gave a look of disapproval. I had used an unacceptable word (yet again!).
Because of swollen feet, a side-effect of pills to inhibit Exon 14 tumours, it was becoming difficult to put my shoes on. I had been wearing mainly walking shoes for some months, but even these had become tight, and I had bruised the side of my ankle making it painful to walk. Shuffling awkwardly, I stepped down heavily and hurt my back. It took three inactive weeks to get better. In the meantime, I finally gave in to nagging advice from our resident family occupational therapist, and bought some wide-fitting, wide-opening Cosyfeet shoes. And cosy they are. I can walk around the village again.
“I’ve had to get some spastic shoes”, I told my son.
The thing is, “spastic” was once a perfectly acceptable word. It was not until 1994 that The Spastics Society renamed itself Scope, the charity for people with cerebral palsy. “Spastic” had become a term of abuse, and parents were being put off. Children would call each other “a daft spastic” for clumsiness or mistakes. Just as a word, it sounds effective and humorous. It actually means subject to spasms, and remains in medical use in other circumstances. “Scope” is neutral, but the Society lost public awareness.
In contrast, Mencap, the society for children and adults with learning disabilities, continues under a name with negative connotations, but everyone recognises what it is. The name went through several changes after the charity was founded in 1946 as The National Association of Parents of Backward Children. “Backward” became another term of abuse. “Are you a bit backward?” was hurled at someone slow to understand a point.
Many other terms have fallen out of use. Mongolism was the scientific name for Downs Syndrome. Cretinism was thyroid deficiency severe enough to cause confusion and physical changes. They were accepted medical and academic terms into the 1980s. I still have a small book by a professor at the university where I did my psychology degree, an internationally respected authority in learning disability, that contains a table setting out the legal and scientific uses through the years of terms used to describe ‘mental deficiency’, ‘mental retardation’ and ‘subnormality’ according to I.Q. It is interesting that ‘idiot’ denoted the lowest I.Q., with ‘imbecile’ slightly higher, and ‘feeble-minded’ and ‘moron’ above, which does not seem to be the pejorative usage today.
From Clarke, A.D.B. and Clarke, A.M. (1975): Recent Advances in the Study of Subnormality. MIND (National Association for Mental Health), London. Page 5. |
Such terms were used to discriminate and exclude people from society, irrespective of ability. Until perhaps the 1960s, eugenics, sterilisation, and euthanasia, were openly discussed. Institutionalisation lasted even later, although, with support, many occupants could have lived independently. Alan and Ann Clarke did a great deal to alleviate this by showing what people could do, rather than what they could not.
Then there are the labels for nationalities, ethnicities, and race. They were not always used maliciously. When a Canadian-born great-nephew turned up on leave during the Second World War, my great-grandfather said that this “Yank” (can I still say that?) had knocked on the door. It was a description, not a judgement. The family put him up for a few days, delighted to hear about their Canadian relatives, and it seemed to relieve some of his anxiety about having to go back to the war.
Returning to the slang term for Americans, no doubt many will dislike it, and it wasn’t used accurately anyway. I dislike being called a Brit. I am British, or English, or from Yorkshire, but as Brit is now used widely in the British media, and by some British bloggers, I am not likely to win that one.
National and racial labels are often used to stir up division and hatred. There is a Monty Python sketch about a television show called Prejudice, in which viewers are invited to come up with derogatory names for various nationalities, and contains a section called “Shoot the Poof” (although even Monty Python in 1970 steered clear of race). The sketch can be found online, but some will find it so offensive I am not going to post a link. On watching again, I still find it hilarious. Michael Palin as the awful show host is brilliant, but as with the comedy series ‘Till Death Us Do Part’, not everyone sees that the laugh is at and not with the holders of these views.
I misused one of these words in frustration. If you saw my feet you would see why. I’ve got some spastic slippers as well now.
I think that it is an easy enough adjustment to make. If a word has become offensive, what word or phrase has replaced it? And then you just sort of naturally begin to incorporate that word into your vernacular. I still remember being totally shocked at hearing a coworker describing one of the developmentally disabled adults that we worked with as 'a mongoloid'. All that being said, I find it annoying when people totally ignore what you are trying to say and focus solely on how you are saying it.
ReplyDeleteThat was me....
DeleteYes, one gradually changes, but can be caught out if you are not up to date, which was possibly the case with the colleague. As you say, some people set themselves up as kind of thought police, and can be quite aggressive about terminology.
DeleteI remember all those words in common use when I was a schoolgirl and, yes, they were often used quite cruelly.
ReplyDeleteKits will always be mean and even cruel whatever words they have available. I heard all these used, too, and probably used them myself in a teasing rather than cruel way. But we rarely thought about what they really meant, and how hurtful they are to those genuinely affected.
DeleteAs Shakespeare said "a rose by a other name would smell as sweet". What is offensive to one is not offensive to another. It was only recently to my shame, I discovered that you can no longer use a word I had innocently thought was to describe someone of African descent, but apparently that is not PC. I was mortified as I would not want to offend anybody. Things that were acceptable fifty years ago are no longer acceptable, but it is sometimes difficult for my age group to steer through what is now OK and what is not.
ReplyDeleteThat's exactly the issue with my son and daughter and those of their age. They think we are sexist and racist, whereas it is sensitivity to language that has changed because words were used to persecute and discriminate. What my great-grandfather said was nothing compared to what I have been told was said by other family members of his era, but I cannot repeat those, even though they were not said maliciously.
DeleteI once called a group of people "cretins" on a public forum and got a good scolding for being politically incorrect. The thing is, I had no idea that the word had a medical meaning originally. To me it was like called people "jerks". But of course now that I know better I won't do that again.
ReplyDeleteI'm American, and "Yanks" wouldn't offend me at all. It would actually seem kind of cute, given that I'm from the South and people here called people from the Northeast "Yankees".
There are a lot of words I've used without knowing what they mean - I wrote a post about saying "crap" to mean "very poor" as a child, and even my parents didn't know until an aunt told them. I remember wrongly using "thick" as a teenager. So there is no wonder we make mistakes of the kind you mention. I think it is often simply because the sound of the work seems exactly what we want to say.
DeleteIt's interesting to note how many words went on to become slurs. Out Spastic Society changed to Scope around the same time, so I expect it was a world wide change. Mental is another word that has changed so much. Mental can be crazily good, or just crazy in being very busy and chaotic. I suppose really, it still refers to its original meaning.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, it is good that you now have appropriate footwear. I suppose they were not cheap.
Nearly £100. Would have been more but I was surprised to be excused VAT because of all the things wrong with me. It seems it has some compensations at least.
DeleteA fascinating essay and I am with you with regard to the now widely used term - "Brit". I loathe that word but I do not mind the ancient term "Briton" -for we dwell on the island of Britain. It's good to know you have now got some MF* shoes.
ReplyDelete*= mobility friendly
Mobility boosters. Go further and go faster.
DeleteIt is a cultural change surely in how we use language and the tools we are given to develop it. In the past forty years the written word has been taken over by the computer. There was a time as a young secretary I learnt a different language to write in which was Gregg shorthand, there was Pitman as well. So our ethical choice of words also has changed, it was easier to say someone was 'thick' or a 'cretin', nowadays they are dyslexic, or autistic. Lillie would often jump on me like a little tigress should I have got a word wrong according to her interpretation of language. I think it is called evolution ;)
ReplyDeleteAs responded to Addy, above, we are not being prejudiced, it is simply the words we grew up with, and are independent of attitudes or beliefs. We are faced with fast and easy judgemental intolerance.
DeleteAre they opposing views? I agree with both of you.
DeleteWhile I understand the need for political correctness (and kindness), I think it sometimes goes too far. There are so many terms we used that were never meant to be hateful or derogatory. We would refer to someone with cognitive issues as "retarded" (mentally retarded). That's a definite no-no now. Perhaps we've become an overly sensitive society.
ReplyDeleteI suggest you be careful using the initials MF for your new shoes as indicated by YP. "Mobility Friendly" is certainly not the first thing that comes to my mind!
I agree. The very fact that "backward" and "handicapped" and "spastic" were one the terms used by carers demonstrates that they were not hateful. I think almost any acceptable word could become a hateful term, and therefore unacceptable. Words like "vegan", "human rights" and "socialist" are used dismissively by some.
DeleteAny word used to describe 'otherness' could or will become perjorative as a society strives to achieve the look (or sound) of inclusivity. Migrant will be a dirty word at some stage, or refugee. Some groups have even tried to reclaim names they had originally used for themselves but which had been turned to terms of abuse by others. There will always be 'us' and 'others' so this revolving door of descriptive terms becoming taboo will continue to spin.
ReplyDelete"Revolving Door" puts it very well. I was thinking exactly the same about the word "immigrant" which is very nearly there.
DeletePS I hope your shoes are a 'revelation' in comfort.
ReplyDeleteCosyfeet style Bart if you want to look them up. I didn't realise how bad things were until I got them. I suppose it is the same when one needs a walking stick or a wheelchair - you don't want to admit or be seen out with it. On first glance the shoes do not appear unusual.
DeleteOh, crickey, how this post resonates! Footwear, first of all. My feet resemble tug boats and have medical problems. They are NOT pointed as most female footwear seems to be. Can I ever find shoes that resemble the shape of my feet and that I would actually want to wear?
ReplyDeleteSecondly, like your other bloggers, I never wish to insult or belittle but as I get older I have become increasingly out of touch with current terminology. Does one now say, person of colour, is black an insult? I no longer know.
I was surprised how ordinary the Cosyfeet shoes look. I imagines they were going to be like surgical boots.
DeleteI like Tigger's Mum's description of it being a revolving door of language.